CHOOSING YOUR BRIDESMAIDS AND MAID OF HONOUR
Your questions answered when it comes to deciding who to choosing your bridesmaids and maid of honour
Behind every bride there is a support system; an elite team of family and friends who make sure the lead up to the big day goes without a hitch. They’re on hand for all the pre-wedding prep, they are the organisers of the hen do and even the providers of the all-important reality check, should ‘bridezilla’ make an appearance. They’re the closest allies a bride has and an integral part of the day… but how do you choose your bridesmaids and maid of honour?
For some it is an easy decision to make. You have your group of girls (or boys) whom you’ve always envisaged standing beside you on your day and you wouldn’t want it any other way. Great! But regardless of whether this applies to you or not, wedding planning is a stressful process and it can put a strain on any friendship. You will more than likely upset someone by not giving them the role they expected and there’s always going to be the risk that the slightly ‘flaky’ bridesmaid will let you down at the last minute.
You’ll need to set honest expectations for both yourself and your bridal A-team from the outset. How involved do you actually want them to be in the run up to your day? Will you expect them to be there at every pre-wedding event you arrange or are you happy for them to just show up at the wedding venue on the day? Defining the level of contribution at this stage will alleviate stress and avoid disappointment. Of course, if you have a potential bridesmaid who can’t commit as much as you would like, there is no reason why you shouldn’t let them chip-in as and when they can, but at least you’ll be aware that you can’t depend on them for the more important things.